Tuesday, October 19, 2010

Small Group Ministry Week 1 Lifes Healing Choices Admitting Need-The Reality Choice

Pin It Now!   Like I said last week we started our small groups for Church, we are in a great group and are so enjoying it already. Everyone brings a dessert or finger food and we mingle, watch the chapter of the video of the week and then we break into groups of Men and Women for our workbook and discussion.
  Here is some of the things we talked about this past week, sorry I am a little behind, I was sick the last half of last week and then this weekend I got first degree burns on my right hand(of course) I am right handed by getting gravy spilled all over my hand getting the bowl out of the microwave and bumping the bowl and it tipped towards me. All I have to say about that is OUCH..
Life's Healing Choices, The Beatitudes.
     Week 1
Admitting Need-The Reality Choice
The root cause of every Humans problem?? Trying to be GOD!
1.We try to control our image by wearing masks,playing games and hiding the truth about ourselves.
2. We try to control other people by manipulating each other through guilt or shame or praise or even silence.
3. We try to control our problems by saying things like: I can handle it; its not really a problem. I dont need help. I can quit anytime.
4.We try to control our pain by avoiding it, denying it,escaping it,medicating it, drwoning it, or postponing it.

But the first step toward recovery- the first healing choice you can have to make-is the Reality Choice, where you realize and accept the fact that you are not God, and you need help from someone much greater than you to overcome your hurts,hang-ups, and habits.

 Consequences of Playing God
We fear that someone will find out who we really are and reject us.

I dont understand myself at all, for I really want to do what it right, but I cant. I do what I do not want to do-what I hate. I know perfectly well what I am doing is wrong... But I cannot help myself .... It is sin inside me that is stronger than I am that makes me do those evil things.[Romas 7:15-17 LB]
My Dishonesty made me miserable and filled my days with frustration.[Psalm 32:3 LB]

My strength evaporated like water on a sunny day until I finally admitted all my sins to you and stopped trying to hide them. [Psalm 32:4-5 LB]

You'll never succeed in life if you try to hide your sins. Confess them and give them up. Then God will show mercy to you. [Proverbs 28:13 TEV]

1. I am powerless to CHANGE my past.
2. I am powerless to CONTROL other people.
3. I am powerless to COPE with my hurts, hang-ups, and habits.

Good intentions are not enough
Willpower is not enough
You need another source of Power
You need GOD

God opposes the proud and gives grace to the humble.[James 4:6 NIV]

I have answered the following Questions in my workbook as I would like to keep them private between my hubby and I and our group but here they are so you may ask them of yourself.

1. We all try to pplay Godby attempting to control our image,other people,our problems,and our pain.
Why do YOU feel the need to be in control? List some ways you try to control your image, your problems,your pain and other people.

2. Read the passage again from Romas 7:15-17. Can you relate to that? Share your experiences with this kind of tension.

3.The first healing choice is to admit you are powerless to change your past, control other people and to cope with your problems. Which of these do you struggle with the most?

4. The Bible says, God opposesthe proud and gives grace to the humble[James 4:6 NIV]
Why do you think God opposes the proud? What does it mean to humble yourself to God?

5. Where are you in learning to trust God? Share honestly with your group and ask for prayer to grow in this process.

Living on purpose:Fellowship
You are not alone in this Journey and the decision to begin Life's Healing Choices group study is not an accident.

Putting it into practice
C.S. Lewis said, " God whispers to us in our pleasures, but shouts to us in our pain."
That pain can be physical, emotional,relational, or financial.
What might God be saying to you right now?
We are all powerless over something. This week take the first healing choice, and admit to God something you are powerless over.

Prayer Direction
Pray for God to give you the willingnessand the courage to admit where you are powerless.

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